When I was asked to take on some urgent work that needed completing within 24 hours, I flagged that I was inundated and it may take me a little longer than expected. The answer was that I can push something else, this was urgent. This pattern continued week after week. I told myself that clearly my boss expected me to fulfil all these tasks within the hours set and if I was struggling to do so, that it was because I wasn’t fast enough. So I continued. I started staying late and working through my lunch breaks, determined to reduce the size of my workload. But I never reached the end of my list and the anxiety drove me to sleepless nights and constant palpitations at the prospect of going to work.
It would be easy to say that this was the fault of my boss – that they shouldn’t have expected so much from me. But in reality, they had no idea that I was struggling because I never said ‘no’. My failure to enforce boundaries not only led me to physical stress, had an impact on my mental health, but also led me to start hating my job and wanting something new.
We often see boundaries as something negative – that saying ‘no’ to someone with power will result in us being seen as less able or too stubborn. And as a team leader it may seem obstructive. But by encouraging team members to set healthy boundaries, you are creating a culture of respect, improving your team health and wellbeing and in turn, creating a team people want to be part of. These are the optimum conditions for productivity and creativity and so your team performance is likely to improve the more respected and valued they feel.
So as a team leader, here are 5 ways you can help to create a culture of healthy boundaries:
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